Family Beliefs: Morals and Values

Alexis the catcher:)

helping kids develop strong morals and values

Family morals are beliefs that families have about right and wrong, and good and bad. Morals are the foundation of discipline. Discipline teaches children to make good choices, to cooperate, and follow the rules. This is important, because without the moral basis of "right and wrong," Kids would feel confused about boundaries, and wouldn't be able to make proper moral judgements!

Family values are the moral guidelines that family members believe have worth. When a belief has worth it has value. So if you are teaching your kids no hitting , no fighting, be respectful. Those are all morals you expect your child to practice. So my question is where do parents blur the lines, and think that any of their morals will have worth when they themselves don't follow their own moral beliefs? Like its not OK for the kids to hit the dog, but it is OK for you? Or don't hit your brother, but you walk over and hit him to make him stop hitting? I don't understand lol. So the moral of treating people and animals with respect is then thrown out the window, and will have little value! If your morals are to have worth, then shouldn't everybody in the family practice what they preach?

Accompanying an emotional component to the learning experience truly is the difference weather something has value or not. These experiences can be good or bad. What I mean is this...you remember all the great things that you did or had during your childhood. You also remember the horrible experiences or even traumatic things. The good memories make you feel good,smile, and have good thoughts. Negative feelings make you mad,hurt, maybe even resentful. Which is why you are less likely to recall these moments in life, although they influence our daily decisions and morals. Some parents feel that where there is pain there is gain???? I know that my kids will fall down and get hurt, or have broken hearts, and maybe even do really stupid stuff like a slip 'n' slide in the kitchen. But in no way would I want them to feel pain. What could they possibly gain from that? How would incorporating unpleasant experiences around a lesson teach them anything? Yes they will learn from broken hearts, or a bump on the head, but as a parent arn't you supposed to try to protect them? Children are threatened with a spanking, or even loss of parental love if they even think about doing something bad.

Statements like:

"Are you asking for a spanking" (what kid would say yes, please spank me?)

Stop crying before I give you a reason to cry? HUH? yes you want your kid to stop crying, so in order to make her stop your going to cause her pain???? This makes perfect sense ha ha!!

The only moral that is being learned is not a positive one. It's showing them how to make threats, or bully people, and using violence to get what they want. I have spanked my kids I am not going to say that i havn't but it don't happen very often, and I always feel horrible after it. I believe if spanking was the right thing to do then why do so many parents feel the need to say they are sorry after? Don't we apologize for stuff we did wrong?

To sum all this up, the goal of getting kids to have positive moral beliefs and family values In treating others with respect has to be a learning experience that exemplifies what parents want their kids to learn.

Kids Sports and Parents Don't Mix: A Mothers Humorous View!!

I Am One Of Those Mom's :)

So every Saturday is crazy running 5 kids to different basketball games. I always have to tell myself that it's for their own good, and it is beneficial to them throughout their adult life. Believe me I have to tell myself that a million times before I get out the door :) So today I found out I AM ONE OF THOSE MOM"S!! You know one of them moms that yells from the bleachers at all of the team, saying get open, get the ball, good job, or REALLY? The benefits for the kids doing sports are great, but I am not so sure they have taken the parent benefits into consideration. I am pretty sure my blood pressure was a little high, and I was winded from yelling, and on top of yelling to the team, I had to chase my youngest kids all over the place.

There are the obvious health benefits to sports. Like cardio, and being active for extended periods of time. Everyone knows that childhood obesity is on the rise and this is one way to keep your child healthy and fit. Then their are us parents that sit our fat butts on the bleachers yelling, as if we could play any better. Yeah, maybe in High School, but I may break a hip now LOL.

Sports can also teach your kids about commitment, teamwork, and problem solving skills. I think that is all very valuable for them to learn. On the other hand why can they not do this at home. I mean, cleaning your room = teamwork, homework = commitment, problem solving = working out a fight with your brother and sister, but "no" they still haven't figured that out yet.

Sports gives the kids a different outlet to turn to other than drinking, drugs, or smoking. Again benefits for the parents...Ummm no. Cause if your one of them mom's that yells, after getting the kids to the game and when the games are done we are ready for a drink.

Putting kids in sports also makes them feel like they have value and are apart of something important. They know that the team needs them and they have a job to do. I have debated on putting this part in my hub, but what the heck. Parents learn valuable lessons to, the pretty mean girl in school is not so pretty anymore, but is really nice. Imagine that.

Oh yes I forgot the best part!! Scholarships, need I say more. Free ride to college that can coast you thousands. What could get better than seeing them go to the school they wanted to, and playing the sport they love? Plus that means they are out of the house!

On a more serious note, having your kids in sports is a great thing for the whole family. It really is a lot of fun, and very beneficial to the kids. They learn teamwork, discipline ,respect, confidence, and many many other things. I had fun writing this, and wanted to try to put a new twist on the benefits of having your kids in sports. By the way I did not really see the pretty mean girl from school at the game!

I'm A Mom...Whats Your Super Power?

I’m a mom, what’s your super power?



I am a stay at home mom of 5 kids (enough said blog done lol) just kidding.



There are days that being a stay at home mom is great and rewarding, but most often than not I feel like no one realizes what I do to keep this house running smooth. There are days when I have cleaned all day, done the laundry, dishes, cleaned up muddy foot prints from the dogs and the kids, ran them to horseback riding, volleyball, basketball, softball, a friend’s house, went grocery shopping, paid bills, been referee, made dinner, helped with home work, been a nurse, read bedtime stories, explained why it’s not ok to tie up your brother or slide down the stairs on your toy box lid!! Then there are days like today! Let me explain.

I wake up thinking today is going to be a great day, and then I realize the kids are already awake and downstairs. I immediately think OMG! It is 6:30am, and takes me waking them up 5 million times to get ready, eat breakfast, get dressed, get your bags and homework, hurry up your going to be late, throughout the week(when they have school). Then on the weekends they are up at the butt crack of dawn? My second thought is, the house isn’t on fire and I am still alive. So I get up and go down stairs, to see Alexis my oldest on the computer talking to her friends. I think it’s a conspiracy, because apparently all kids wake up early on the weekends. Hailey is sitting and reading her newest book, so far so good. Right? Wrong!! Right away I see that they all decided to make breakfast and there is cereal and milk all over the table and the floor. Then the shocker of my life! My three younger kids, Brooklynn, Brittany, and Logan have decided to make a slip ‘n’ slide in the kitchen! NO JOKE!! They made it with eggs and maple syrup. It was all over the kitchen floor. They were sliding from one end of the kitchen to the other. I thought I was going to have a stroke right then and there! I start yelling and screaming at them” only god knows what I was saying” and they go running through the house with egg and syrup all over them. I run after all three of them yelling, telling them they are cleaning the kitchen and are grounded forever!!

So of course now they all have to take a shower and get cleaned up. Well that went bad to! I really just want to scream, because now the bathroom is flooded, and the kids decided to give our American Bulldog a bath too. Anyway I dry up the floor and dry off the poor dog, and start making them clean!! Against my better judgment, I ask the questions every mom should know not to ask. It went something like this……….

ME- Why would you do that?

Logan- It was Brooklynn’s idea.

Brooklynn- Whine, whine, whine. No it wasn’t it was Brittany

Brittany- No it wasn’t everyone blames everything on me!

Me- well it don’t matter who’s idea it was, why would you do that? You knew you would be in big trouble.

Kids- We don’t know, it sounded fun.

Me- well now you’re cleaning the entire kitchen until its sparkling!

Logan- But we don’t have any sparkles!!

Me- Laughing, laughing, laughing……………..

What can you say to that? He was so serious lol. Needless to say they are still grounded and have lots of cleaning to do. Let me tell you it really took major super powers today, not to completely lose it. All in all it still turned out to be a pretty good day:)
I need some feed back and yes this is a true story this actually happened lol!! This is my first blog post ever